Personality cannot be measured by numbers — and if you focus only on numbers, you won’t be able to get married.

Many members, both men and women, get overly caught up in numbers such as age, height, and annual income.
But numbers do not reflect a person’s character.

The more someone tries to show off what they “have,” the emptier they tend to be inside.
The more someone acts superior, the more they are often insecure and lonely.
And the more someone tries to please everyone, the more isolated they usually are.

Marrying someone young does not make you happy.
Marrying someone tall does not make you happy.
Marrying someone with a high income does not make you happy.

Members with good character usually meet around ten people and then decide to marry.
It happens much faster than most people imagine.
If you focus only on numbers during your search, people with good character will simply pass right by you.

“I can’t find any good people at the matchmaking agency.”
I often hear this from female members, but it’s not true.
There are many wonderful people in matchmaking agencies.
However, those people usually find a partner and get married before even meeting ten candidates.

In IBJ (the Japan Marriage Consulting Federation), there are about 100,000 men and women actively looking for marriage.
With an almost even gender ratio, that means roughly 50,000 potential partners of the opposite sex.
Yet the people who meet someone truly good end up meeting only about ten of those 50,000.
The competition is incredibly intense.

And remember: “Like attracts like.”
People with good character meet others with good character and get married.
So if you feel like you’re not meeting good people, it simply means you are not yet someone who matches those good people.
It is never the other person’s fault.